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The Gems

 

Thank you

to all of the gems

in life

 

Those that innocently

sparkle joy

at any age

 

The jewels mishandled,

but somehow

still shining

 

The unpolished natural gems

that quietly

hold no pretensions

 

The big and the bold

set in gold or platinum,

delighting in attention

 

The warm ones

that glow softly

with kindness

 

The precious ones

here for a short time,

their luster reflected in memory

 

The deep-pressed diamonds

who discover their worth

only under duress

 

The cold beauties,

harsh-edged

and full of pain

 

The clear deep stones

unwavering

in any weather

 

Every cut and color in creation,

each facet reflecting

under the sun

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Gotta

 

Gotta hand it to you mothers

you can clean up poop

and pee and barf and still smile

and love your kid like

forever,

like a miraculous flower

never knowing how it will bloom

 

You don’t feel like you’re “babysitting,”

or having to “watch the kid,”

no, no trying on a role for you

it’s the real deal

until death and even after,

that small body full

of every hope you ever had for the future

 

Your mothering hands soothe the heart,

your gaze sees every bit of kid,

every fault and crack line

and loves right into the abyss

and beyond,

you mothers

gotta hand it to you

 

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Caring

Many years ago, I read in a child development class that kids who were physically and emotionally abused, if they survived their childhoods, had a better chance of healing than kids who were completely ignored. Being yelled at was better than no communication at all. Infants who were not held and cuddled, often had failure-to-thrive syndrome and many of them died. I thought about this recently, how ironically, the hater maintains a connection with the hated. To actively hate someone or something is to keep in contact with it, to maintain a kind of twisted relationship. Carl Jung would probably describe that as someone dealing with their own shadow.

There has been a lot of talk about hatred lately. And some of the talk has been about how to turn hatred into caring, to give people another perspective about the hated, to humanize them, make them real, and remind people how to connect with love and caring rather than fear and mistrust. We don’t tend to trust that which we hate. But even haters, given the opportunity to listen, to hear other points of view,¬†may ultimately respond to another’s humanity.

I once talked to a gentleman who taught conflict resolution and peacemaking classes all over the world. He would teach government leaders in a room for a week. They had to eat together, were given problems to solve together, and were forced to acknowledge each other’s humanity. He described his experience with a group of Israelis and Palestinians. He said initially, they would barely communicate besides yelling at one another. At the end of the week, they were able to call each other by name, smile, and recognize each other as valuable human beings who had all suffered grave losses. It took a great deal of work and willingness to get to that point, but it was possible.Continue reading